In this article, we explain how to bring up a premarital agreement with your future spouse. We answer the questions “what is the best way to bring up a prenup?”, “when is the best time to talk about a prenuptial agreement?”, and “what can I say to help my partner feel better about getting a prenup?”. We will also discuss additional tips for talking about prenuptial agreements.
Prenuptial Agreements are more common than most people think, but talking about them can be a little uncomfortable. Communicating in an open and honest way will help to smooth things over when you decide to approach the topic with your partner. Try doing a little research about prenups before you bring it up to your fiance. The more you know about what you want and why, the easier it will be to discuss. If you’d like to learn more about prenuptial agreements, see our article entitled Illinois Prenuptial Agreements Explained.
Be mindful of your phrasing. Instead of approaching your partner by stating you have assets you want to protect (which would likely rub them the wrong way), try telling them that you want to have a conversation about your future together, and that future includes planning for every situation.
No one gets married with the expectation of getting divorced. A prenuptial agreement allows you both to decide how you would like to be treated if you are no longer together, be it through divorce or death.
If you are considering a prenup, you should discuss it with your partner as early as possible. You may even want to consider having a conversation about prenups while you are still dating, as opposed to after you get engaged. It is very natural for stress to increase as your wedding day approaches, so it is best to talk about a premarital agreement when you are most likely to have a calm and rational discussion.
There are several perks to having a prenuptial agreement that you can highlight when you decide to talk to your partner. Common issues addressed in prenups are as follows:
Prenuptial agreements can cover all of these issues, or only one or two of them, if that is what you and your partner agree upon. The only legal requirement for a valid prenuptial agreement is that the contract be in writing and signed by both parties. The content of your prenup is entirely up to you. Reminding your partner that you will be making all of these decisions together can be a helpful tool when initiating the conversation.